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Believe in yourself – Better self confidence

Hello!

I hope you all had a wonderful New Years Eve and New Years Day! I personally had a lovely New Years Eve and spent it with friends from high school. We ate dinner, drank some drinks and watched the fireworks and came home some time in the morning the next day. It was a great evening with friends and the best way to celebrate the new year!

The following day, New Years day, January 1st. I kept up with my tradition i’ve had since around 2012 where i have gone for a walk/run in the morning on the first of January. This is a great way to start the day and the new year according to me. Getting fresh air, clearing your thoughts, and moving your body. It is also a way to celebrate that i have a healthy enough body to go for a walk/run as well as doing something i love.

The rest of the day i didn’t have any other plans or intentions for the day. However i kept getting these ideas of things i should work on and these small motivation highs where i just wanted to write out my thoughts, ideas and put goals into action. HOWEVER there was also something holding me back, and that is how it is for me far too often.

One of the main goals i need to work on this year is to begin believing in myself and stop comparing myself and my successs – or lack thereof – to others. I have been through so much and overcome so many fears and worked on myself and my mindset. But one thing i just can’t seem to overcome is my lack of self confidence and not believing in myself. It is so easy to look at others and see how successful they are, wonder how they did it… and instead of thinking, Why can’t i? Instead i think, why even bother….. I won’t succeed, i can’t do anything unique or special, why even try…..

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A fear of failure? A lack of confidence? Comparing myself to others…. 

It is all hindering me so that i don’t even start. And i know that if i don’t start i won’t succeed either. Everyone needs to start somewhere and even if i do fail, what does it matter? You learn from mistakes and failure…. And there is nothing wrong or bad with failing, but if i don’t even start i am not even giving myself the chance to succeed.

From doing some self reflecting and self coaching i have realised that alot of what is holding me back is also a lack of knowledge…. how do things work. I am the type of person who wants to know all the details before i begin. This isn’t always possible and sometimes you just have to start and learn along the way.

At some point i have to start. At some point i have to believe in myself and i need to start asking myself, Why not me? Why can’t i succeed? I need to stop comparing myself to others and just focus on what i can do. But most of all… just do it. Stop holding myself back so much.

I have so many dreams, so many goals but these negative thoughts keep holding me back. So instead i just sit and dream about them and hope that somehow they will just become real and everything will be clear and i will have all the knowledge to start.But that is not how it works…. timing won’t always be perfect, i won’t always know everything before i start but that doesn’t mean i shouldn’t try.

So with this post and with some self reflection my main goal for 2018 is to just try. Try to believe in myself. Stop holding myself back and stop comparing myself to others. Think, if they can be successful… why can’t I? They put the hard work in and i need to do the same!

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4 thoughts on “Believe in yourself – Better self confidence”

  1. Life is one long “learning curve” Izzy – no one is armed with all the knowledge and facts at the start, we learn as we go and progress as we learn. No venture is straightforward, there will be “blips” along the way and mistakes will be made, but that is how we learn – doing and trying things for ourselves.
    Life is too short to hold the belief that we aren’t good enough, that we will fail at something so its not even worth trying. Confidence grows in us with every thing we try. Think of how far you have come in your life over the past couple of years, how you have grown as a person, what you are doing now. Take a leap of faith and do what you dream of. Accept mistakes will be made but there will be success too. You are “good enough” and you can do whatever you want 🙂

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  2. Dear Izzy,
    I believe in you that you can become more confident! As you say, you have changed so much over the years and worked so hard for that.
    About how much you can know as you go — if the end goal is greater confidence, then with that isn’t it a bit like recovery from some of the things you have written about before? When you enter, or make progress, in recovery, you don’t know every step or how it all works, you don’t even feel sure if you will get there because you cannot really imagine it, but you know the next step and you know some of what you need to change, and you are curious and committed to getting past the place where you are.
    If the end goal is some concrete thing you want to “do” — why is that different? Why measure success by the finished product, why even think about success/failure, rather than about growing and learning and the excitement for the one next step that takes you to the place that is a little closer, without really knowing how it will turn out?

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words 💕💕💕 they mean so much to me and like you wrote, why measure success by the finished product… you learn, grow,make mistakes and try again. I really need to start believing in myself and stop holding myself back. I hope you have an amazing 2018 and thank you again for your kind comment 💕

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