Comparing lifestyles – feeling like you are not doing enough

I recently got a message which i felt i needed to address and write about – i think i have written about it before – but it doesn’t hurt to mention it again.

I was asked, how did i have the energy to both spend a whole day studying, maybe workout, and then come home and meal prep for almost 2 hours. And the person felt like they could barely do one of those things each day and felt like a failure because i was doing so much in a day.

I get similar messages like this and i think it is so important to talk about. First off – don’t compare your life or your day to mine. I don’t show you my whole day on social media, i just show bits of it. I also don’t show the days i do absolutely nothing… the days i just lie in bed and watch series.

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I am a very productive person and as i have written on my blog before it is not always a good thing. Infact it leads to me feeling stressed and like i am not doing enough despite doing alot more than an “average” person. I feel like i always have to be effective and working and this isn’t always a good mindset…. so i am trying to teach myself to rest more. You may see someone who works alot or is always productive/doing things, but that has it’s negatives as well….  I guess the quote, you always want what you don’t have is true. (I.e i wish i had the ability to rest more and not feel like i am not good enough if i amn’t productive.)

The important thing to keep in mind is that everyone is different. People have different lifestyles, different energy levels and different things going on in their life. Like i usually remind many of my followers is that they shouldn’t compare their exercise amount to “fitness people” online. Because for fitness people, it is their job to workout and post it on social media… they have the time to go to the gym twice a day and often their body shape is part of their job. Whereas someone who is studying full time or working 2 jobs or just someone who is struggling with mental illness and constantly tired doesn’t have that energy or time to workout so often – so you can’t and shouldn’t compare.

I have plenty of days where i do nothing and rest – you can’t always be productive. But like i mentioned, this isn’t shown on social media. I have times i compare my life with people online or even my close friends thinking… wow they are social, they have so much energy, wow they are doing so much each day and here i am barely left the house. But comparison won’t bring you anything good, it will just make you feel bad about yourself.


Instead be motivated but also realistic. Just because others are always doing things or it seems like others are always social or always working out or always studying doesn’t mean you have to do that as well. It is your life and you need to live it the way you want to. Also important to note that if you are struggling with depression or anxiety or other mental illnesses which affect your energy levels and overall life motivation then you just need to be kind to yourself and accept that somedays just surviving is an achievement. Not everyday has to be productive, sometimes just getting out of bed is the achievement for the day and that is ok.

So focus on your life and don’t compare yourself to others. I know it can be hard, but it is important to remember and not get caught up in what others are doing or not doing.

Also, when it comes to energy levels… eating enough and having a healthy diet is key. The times i don’t eat enough or the times i am stressed or have an unbalanced diet then my energy levels plummet. So the days i do alot and work/study 12 hours are always the days i eat alot of food and have alot of energy both physically and mentally! So if you feel you are lacking in energy ask yourself if maybe you need to eat more, eat different or if it is maybe to stress less or sleep more or a combination of all of them!

Focus on yourself and your life!!!

4 Comments Add yours

  1. Conni says:

    I love that final quote! So true! x


  2. caroljoanne1969 says:

    When you say that having a healthy diet and eating enough is key to your energy levels this is definitely true. These past couple of weeks I have completely lost my appetite and I have noticed the constant tiredness and weariness I get trying to do my normal things. Having s good diet is crucial – you just can`t “run on empty”


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