Working because you have to vs. working with what you are passionate about

This summer, just like the past 3 years I am working in a food store as my summer job. It is something I have done for a long time now… something I know. Something “easy/comfortable”. There is not so much thinking, nothing “new”…. Even if everyday is different and there are always new and different customers and different situations that can occur. In general, it is the same thing and nothing really “New” happens. It’s a job I do for the sake of money.

However, this year…. I have realised I am done with this type of job. It has given me a lot of experience. How to handle stress, how to handle different situations, being in charge of different sections of the store… but even my type when working in a “recruitment” agency where I worked at different stores each day. Being flexible and hard working.

However the past 3 years I have always used the excuse that, “I am still in school, I am still studying, I will wait until I have my degree” and then begin working with something else as a reason to not really work anywhere else. Not to mention, I have always had my social media as a part time hobby/job.

But now I have realised… I want to give 200% to my social media and working with health and nutrition. I no longer want to work in a store… I feel that it is taking too much of my time that I could be spending on other things, such as working on my social media and applying for jobs within health coaching and nutrition.

Of course, this summer I am working fulltime (and more) at the store and that is what I will do…. But this will be my last summer. From autumn and forward I want to work with what I am passionate about… work with what I love and work with the area I have my degree in.

I am grateful that I have a job, I never take it for granted. I remember when I first began applying for jobs it was so hard to get a job… and even the year I worked at a recruitment agency it was because it was so hard to get a job elsewhere. And I know that I will be facing the same problem when applying for jobs within health and nutrition, but with a good CV, personal letter and experience hopefully it won’t be too hard.

When I work with my social media where I share recipes, take food pictures, share inspiration, do research for blog posts and even now with creating small IG videos and Youtube.. I LOVE DOING IT. I wake up in the morning and can’t wait to work. I can’t wait to spend the day creating and being able to share what I love.

I also LOVE being able to do sponsorships and sponsored content, even if I don’t do them so often (which actually gives me a little anxiety as that is the only form of income I get from my social media).

I love feeling that inspiration, that happiness, that willing to work from 8am to 10pm. It is a happiness, a motivation and a drive….. and I have so many other things I want to work on. I want to have time to film and edit Youtube videos. I want to have time to write and maybe create another ebook or two. I want to be able to post weekly blogposts with *actual* good content.

I want to work fulltime with what I love (even if things like taxes, emails, cleaning dishes isn’t always so fun, it is part of doing the thing I love so it is ok).

And now when I am working in a store… I am doing it for the sake of money, but feel like it Is taking time from the things I want to do. It also makes me think…. If you are unhappy with your job, CHANGE…. I know this isn’t easy… trust me. I know the fear and struggle of applying for new jobs and getting no’s…. the fear of not having a job and not being able to pay rent. So it is not easy to just quit your job.

But if your job makes you unhappy… you have to think about making a change. For me… I can live with this anxiety for 2 months and just work super hard these 2 months and then know that I am going to work with what I love and am passionate about in the near future. This isn’t a forever job.. this is a “I need to pay my bills” job.

So I envcourage you all… if you are unhappy or your job gives you anxiety, begin to make a change. Find what you LOVE. Find what you are passionate about. Even if you may need to work your job for a few months or even years, just to pay your bills until you can move on… please don’t ever settle for a job that makes you unhappy or gives you anxiety.

You have one life to live and the majority of people spend 1/3 of their life at work and working… do you really want to waste 1/3 of your life on anxiety and hating what you do?

(And note, I know this is easy for me to write coming from someone who knows what she wants to do, knows what she loves to do, and already has some sort of hobby business set up and a university degree. If you don’t know what you want to do, have little or no education or don’t live in an area where there are a lot of jobs available or don’t have the economical safety to just quit your job, then it is not so easy. But maybe this post will just get you thinking about what other options are there for you?)

Antiweightloss and anti-dieting?

Something I have noticed a lot of online recently is antiweightloss posts. I have even been asked myself where I am against dieting or weightloss… as I often write about balance, learning to love yourself, gaining weight, intuitive eating… and that doesn’t always go along with dieting.

 

However I am not against weightloss…. Infact weightloss is necessary for some people and is something which is needed to be healthy. While for others weightloss is very unhealthy and not recommended, and weight gain could be the healthiest thing for thing.

However I think it is important to ask yourself how and why you want to lose weight. There is a lot of societal pressure to be thin, specially for females. And many females can feel the need to diet and lose weight even if they don’t need to. Maybe all they need to work on is healthier habits, more self love, balance and a different mindset to food, exercise and their body image. And that losing weight wouldn’t be healthy or necessary for them and wouldn’t necessarily make them happier.

So I can understand the antiweightloss posts that just promote self love, eating everything and all you want and going against weightloss. But it can’t be forgotten that some people do actually need to lose weight and there is nothing shameful or wrong about it. Infact almost 50% of the population in certain countries are clinically obese and need to loseweight. I do of course think that an important step in losing weight is also changing mindset and habits. Because you could diet on 600kcal a day for 4 months and lose weight, but if you don’t learn to find balance with food and learn to enjoy exercise and do it regularly or learn to love yourself and your body, then the weightloss won’t be sustainable in the longterm. And that is often the problem. It is easy to do a quick diet where you lose a bunch of weight quickly, but if habits and mindset don’t change then the person is very likely to regain the weight or to live a life with very disordered eating and body image. Sustainable weightloss means a lifestyle change.

How and why you want to lose weight?

So how and why you lose weight are important questions before you actually begin a weightloss journey. Are you doing it because you actually need to do for health reasons, i.e clinically overweight or obese, or are you doing it because you think you should… because you have some stomach roles or cellulite? Also how…. Is it a quick fix diet, or are you making lifestyle changes that will give you long term results?

I am not against weightloss, however I am against weightloss for the wrong reasons. But also one of the most important things is change in habits and mindset to more healthy, sustainable changes… not just focus on the number on the scale.

There is a lot of focus on weightloss when weightloss may not be necessary.

For those of you who don’t know I studied health promotion with specialisation nutrition, and so my main  focus is on promoting health and of course nutrition. It is important to look at the individuals needs when it comes to health and promoting health…. Some people may need to lose weight, others may need to gain weight, others may need to just focus more on their mindset and learning to love themselves. But looking over lifestyle, habits, choices and mindset are key to promoting health and creating lifestyle changes towards the more positive and healthy.

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Even if weightloss may be necessary… losing weight doesn’t automatically mean you gain health. You could lose weight in a very unhealthy way and still not exercise, smoke, dirnk and stress and then the weightloss won’t make you healthy. Not to mention it most likely won’t be sustainable.

Which is also why making lasting changes with your diet should be one of the first steps… because if a person just loses weight eating a very small amount or following a trend diet, it will most likely not lead to lasting changes in mindset or weight. So even if weightloss doesn’t have to be bad, the way you do it matters alot.

Anti-dieting?

And with diets… I guess you could say I am anti-trend diets. A diet is basically just the way you eat, but a trend diet is often a quick fix diet which is trendy…. A set of rules of what, when and how much you can eat of certain foods. I don’t believe in those diets as they aren’t sustainable in the long term. Any diet which cuts out too many food groups or leaves you feeling restricted in someway isn’t a diet that will be maintained for a long period of time.

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So I promote intuitive eating and balance, even if I also believe that for some people in certain times of their life they may need more control such as a meal plan or set of rules regarding their eating. But that may just be a short period of their life to get some control and structure to their food and eating, but in the long term a balance diet where you don’t have any rules or regulations regarding how, what and how much you eat. But instead trying to tune in with your body’s signals.

I would love to know your opinion on this!

Graduation day | Health promotion with focus nutrition

After 3,5 years at university, whereof 3 years studying health promotion with focus on nutrition, it is finally coming to an end.

These three years have gone SOO quick. Trust me, when you first begin university it may feel like a lifetime until you graduate and are done… but it will go by so quickly. Three years anyway… if you study 5 or 7 years, of course it will feel like it never ends. But even then, i have heard people who study 5 years to do a masters and say that the time at university went far too quickly.

Today is my graduation day… hopefully get my bachelors in health promotion. Though i won’t know until summer whether i have passed or not with my final bachelors essay.

In three years alot can happen. I feel like a completely different person compared to the girl i was autumn 2016 and first started the program.

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^When i moved to Gothenburg, autumn 2016^^

2016 – new start

I moved to a new city… on my own. Wanting a new fresh start.

I had only been in Gothenburg once before where i spent a two day weekend with my boyfriend at the time… and i fell in love with the city.

Moving to a new city is scary… especially when you don’t know anyone. When you don’t have any contacts and don’t know where you will live. How to travel around the city.

Read more about this HERE: moving to a new city to study| life change and 8 tips for moving to a new city

I had moved out and lived with a roommate earlier, when i was studying at Uppsala univeristy, though i just had a 60-90 minute journey back home if i wanted to see my family. Now i was going to be 4 hours away by train.

However, i have always been so independant that that never bothered me… mostly i knew i would miss my dog. Which i very much have these past 3 years.

There are alot of fears moving to a new city and starting a new university program. Would i make any friends? Would i like the program? Would i feel lonely? Would i like the new city? etc etc I had to face alot of fears and step outside of my comfort zone alot when i first started university and moved to a new city.

 

Did i always know i wanted to study this program?

I have had doubts about my program… often wondered if maybe i should study the dietititan program instead. But in the end, i am very happy i have studied this program… and i do have plans to continue studying… to learn more about coaching, psychology, eating behaviour, leadership, sports nutrition and maybe do a masters in nutrition. Three and a half years at university but i still doubt that i have enough knowledge. Or well, i know i have enough knowledge… i know that my knowledge in nutrition and exercise and health promotion is adequate and higher than the average person… but i guess i am just not done studying or learning.

I love learning…. not so much the stress involved with assignments and exams. But learning more information which i can then share with others and use to help others is what i love. So i am not done with studying, even if i am done with my bachelors.

My university program

Many people are interested in what program i studied and it was “Health promotion with focus nutrition”, and i have written some posts about what i have learnt and my thoughts about the program, HERE: & HERE, which you can read.

My overall thoughts… it is a good program. You learn information about alot of different areas from nutrition, coaching, motivational interviewing (an evidence based counselling style that is usually used when helping people to change behaviours), sports nutrition, biochemistry, health promotion and the list goes on.

Compared to the dietitian program, we have focused alot on health promotion. I.e working with healthy people to keep them healthy. Promoting health and working on “health factors” instead of so called “risk factors”. In the dietitian program they learn more about how to work with sick people and people with different diagnoses. With my knowledge i can work with people who are sick to a certain extent… however we don’t really have the right knowledge to work with nutrition advice regarding certain illnesses and then it is better that the client is sent to a dietitian with more knowledge in those areas of nutrition.

So what can I, and the others in my class work with after this program? Well… we don’t really have a license like dietitians do. However we have qualifications to work with nutrition, exercise, health, health promotion, lifestyle changes etc

Careers can vary from having your own business and doing health coaching, doing lectures, working in health care centres, working in schools, working with businesses, creating mealplans or even working with food. The list goes on…. just from the wide range of internships that people did in my class shows how many different career options there are for us.

Not to mention that there is more and more attention focused on the health for qualified healthcoaches and people focused on promoting health. More and more people are getting sick due to lifestyle related illnesses, and i definitely think people with a similar university degree/program can have a huge impact in helping people improve their health.

What happens now?

It is so crazy to think that these 3 years are over, and it does send me into slight panic mode. I must admit… i feel like i have been constantly stressed these past 3 years, hahah. Which isn’t a good thing. But i have the same feeling as i did after graduation from highschool where you are left thinking…what happens now? What do i do now? Do i work… do i study… how do i get from A to B? What am i doing with my life? Am i on the right path?

So many questions and no answers…. I don’t know where i will be in 5 years time or what i will be doing with my life, or how my life will look like then. But i don’t want to worry about it either.

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This summer my goal is to just work at the foodstore i currently work at. Focus on my social media work with my blog, instagram and YouTube. And also work on some side projects i want to try to build up. And also begin with lectures, maybe doing health coaching and also applying for nutrition/health related jobs. I don’t know how my autumn will look like… but this summer i know i just want a break from school because these past months have been stressful with school and my bachelors essay.

My advice to others:

All i can say from my experience is…. Dare to try something new. Apply to that university course or program. Dare to move to that new city. It is ok if you realize that the first course or program isnät for you… that happened to me. The first time i started university and moved away from home it didn’t turn out as expected. I didn’t make friends, i felt lonely and didn’t have any fun at university. But the second time rount it was better.

It is ok if you study 3 years and realize you hare passionate about something else. You are not a failure. You have still learnt things, gotten experience and realized what you don’t want to do.

Just dare to try. Things may not work out as planned, but that’s life.

I had to move a bunch of times before i finally got my own student apartment. I didn’t makke friends at first when i started university the seocnd time around. I have felt lonely. I have doubted my program and whether i should continue studying.

But for the majority of the time i have enjoyed studying and enjoyed my university experience.

Also, i am so thankful that in Sweden it is free to study. Of course, i have taken a student loan to be able to afford to pay rent/food/etc and not have to work fulltime as well as study… but atleast i don’t need to pay to actually go to unversity, which i am very thankful for.

So… this long post finally comes to an end. All i can say is that i am so happy to finally graduate and have my degree *hopefully*… but at the same time i really don’t feel ready and like time has gone too quick.

Also, i know i haven’t written so many personal posts recently… i used to share my monthly goals and life updates… but with all the school and work stress i have had recently i stopped doing that. But i felt i atleast wanted to share this update in my life 🙂 For those of you who have followed me for the past few years 🙂 And hopefully you will stick around for the next few years as well!

 

Why am I not blogging anymore?

Not sure how to start this post… with hello?

Over the last few weeks i have been getting quite a few messages from people wondering why i am no longer blogging on here… or why it is mostly recipes.

First off, it is lovely to hear that you care and miss my posts… it does mean alot!

And well, the short answer to the question is…there is no time.

But if i am honest with myself, that is not the real or full answer. Sure, not having alot of time left for blogging is definitely one of the reasons i haven’t been able to blog. But if i truly wanted to blog, i would make time for it. If i can write and share recipes, then i should be able to write a few non recipe related posts as well?

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However, i just haven’t been motivated or inspired. There hasn’t been any creativity left for blog posting recently. Haven’t known what to write about, and sometimes it feels like i end up just writing about the same things over and over.

Many want to read more about eating disorder recovery posts, and i understand that. But it also feels a little like i have done that in the past, and one of the reasons for changing blogs was to not write so much about it. Sure, i still want to help and share advice posts… but i am also trying to do that in video format on my YouTube at the moment. (My channel, HERE).

It also feels like i have written so many posts about eating disorder recovery, shared all the advice i could and it is easier to just refer to old posts instead of writing new ones.

And with nutrition posts, which have also been requested… well i just haven’t known what to share. I’ve been stuck in a battle of… what could i share that isn’t already available online? As well as feeling…How much free information can i give away? For the past 10 years i have been blogging for free, so much time and energy dedicated to writing blog posts, sharing advice, answering emails and of course… helping people is SO MUCH MORE important than money. But there also comes a time when I have to realise that i can’t give away all the information i learn at my university course and from all the hours spent studying… because in the end, why would anyone want to hire me as a health coach or a lecturer(?) or even to buy ebooks from me if everything is already available online for free? I hope that makes sense! Of course… that doesn’t mean i will never write nutrition or advice posts again… most of all i just need to find inspiration again and find my creativity.

For those of you who don’t know, i am writing my bachelors thesis right now which is taking up the majority of my time. Preparing, reading articles, writing, rewriting things and the list goes on. And then on top of that i am also trying to keep creating recipes and content for my IG and on here (recipes anyway) and trying to post a YouTube video a week… even if that isn’t always possible as editing can take 8-10 hours and i don’t always have the time for it. And then on top of that i work some evenings and weekends… and somewhere inbetween i want to try to meet friends and have a social life, work out and also get time to clean my apartment, do laundry and actually just watch series.

Somedays it can feel like i don’t actually get any time for myself or that i am working on something from 8am to 10pm. And otherdays… i am so exhausted mentally and have 0 creativity or motivation.

Of course i must admit… i sometimes feel bad about the fact that there are people out there who are running businesses while also writing their bachelors thesis (or even masters – which is much tougher), people who can actually post several youtube videos a week while going to Uni or writing their thesis essay.. and people doing so much more than me while still able to do their Uni work. And it makes me feel bad… like i should be doing so much more. Why can’t i also run a business or post several YouTube videos a week and still do everything else i do… or why can’t i just write a few extra blog posts a week.

However, i am trying to remind myself that we are all different. And adding more to my plate isn’t going to help me. I am already incredibly sensitive to stress and easily get anxiety when i have too much on my plate… so even if i want to do more and often feel like i am not doing enough or good enough, i also need to realise there is only so much i can do without breaking down.

Anyway… so that was the long post as to why i am not really sharing so much on here right now. My goal is to be more active on Youtube and try to show more of my personality and to also sharing some advice and inspirational videos on there.

And in time, i do hope to start blogging on here again and sharing more than just recipes. But i hope you all understand why it has been a little empty here recently. Just trying to balance everything in my life and figure things out!

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Why diets don’t work

Many jump from diets to diets in hopes of finding a miracle cure…. but just end up going up and down in weight. Never finding that long term solution or diet that seems to work wonders….

Well, diet’s just don’t work. Not in the long term anyway.

*This post has talk of weightloss – so if that is triggering, skip this post*

Why they do work….. the first week anyway?

You often cut out on lots of processed food, you limit your intake – often far more than necessary – and that all results in 1) losing water weight, 2) feeling less bloated and 3) you may even feel energetic because you feel so motivated to make a change.

However… after the first or second week, the hunger begins to kick in. So do the cravings. Suddenly the salad and protein you are eating just isn’t enough. You feel more hungry, you feel tired, you may even feel more down/sad….

And then you may begin eating more – specially in the evenings – because you are so hungry. Then the guilt and anxiety kicks in…. you promise yourself tomorrow will be a new day and you eat even more strict to compensate…. and then you just end up overeating again in the evenings. And the cycle continues.

Of course that doesn’t happen for everyone… many can go on a diet for 8 weeks, eat super strict, not listen to cravings and lose weight. However… what happens when you reach your goal weight? What do you do then? You can’t eat restrictively or super strict/low calorie your whole life…. You also need to find balance and make it a lifestyle.

Just like you shouldn’t exercise for a short period of time just to get abs… but to make it a lifestyle and just part of your weekly routine.

And even if you can go on a diet for a short time and be “successful in it”… it is not a long-term choice.

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Going on fad diets don’t work because…

They are often VERY restrictive. And when you have to be very strict or restrictive with your food… it also affects your social life, you have less energy for work and you may even feel more tired when working out. And it can result in all you doing is eating, preparing food, working out and sleeping – when you aren’t working. It becomes a very boring life.

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But also, the more restrictive you eat the more cravings you will get. As well as eating at a calorie deficit will mean you do feel more hungry and that can easier lead to binges or overeating.

Also if you cut out carbs very low – you will begin to crave carbs alot, as well as feeling alot less energetic.

If you cut out fats completely, it will affect your hormones as well as your skin in the long term.

Eating very high protein…? Well unless you have kidney problems it isn’t really a health problem. HOWEVER it isn’t beneficial and won’t give you any better muscle gains if you eat more than 2g protein per kilo body weight. Not to mention that you will most likely lack important vitamins and minerals you get from foods which have more carbs and fat (I.e many “lean” protein sources often don’t have alot of vitamins, minerals or fiber).

Sure, going on a diet may be the kickstart you need if you need to lose weight. It may result in you eating less processed food (such as sugary snacks, sugared soda, white processed food etc) and that is just beneficial for your health. But it is not a long term solution.

It is important to CHANGE HABITS. As well as making it a new lifestyle… 

Going on a diet may give you quick results… but it won’t be lasting results. Whereas making small changes to your lifestyle and habits, it may take longer to reach your goal, but the results will often be lasting  – as well as you creating a better and healthier lifestyle.

There is ALOT of information about different diets and they all claim to be the miracle diet… the diet that fixes all problems. But what do most of the fad/trend diets have in common?

  1. They cut out all processed foods.
  2. You often eat alot more fruits and vegetables (unless you are eating LCHF diet)
  3. You may have more “defined” meals and not constant snacking throughout the day
  4. You drink more water – hopefully – and less soda
  5. You eat at a calorie deficit because you cut out alot of processed and high calorie food

And yes… all of that often results in weightloss, better blood sugar levels, lower blood cholesterol and triglyceride levels in your blood. (However… if you are eating LCHF with alot of ex. red meat, butter, cream etc then it may not have the same effect on your triglyceride and cholesterol levels in your blood).

However… you can also get the same – long term effects – by making continuous changes to your lifestyle and if weightloss is your goal, doing it in a slower rate to make it more sustainable.

Going on a diet doesn’t have to be wrong or bad, however they often don’t work and many end up losing weight during the diet and then regaining it all once the diet is over because they just go back to old ways again. They haven’t found a balanced approach to food. And that is why it is better to make small changes which are sustainable and lifestyle changes rather than doing an 8 week diet which isn’t sustainable.

Also i guess i should mention detoxes, juice cleanses and water fasts as well…?

No, they don’t work either. Your kidneys and liver do the detoxing for you, and if they don’t detox your body… well then you are sick and need medical help.

Of course, if you eat a whole bunch of “junk food”, then you may feel better after drinking a green juice or eating some fruit, but you don’t need to do a juice cleanse to compensate or detox your body. And doing a water fast can just be harmful for many, and same goes for juice cleanses.

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Skip the quick diets. If you do overeat and feel sluggish, it is better to just drink some extra water and get back to a regular eating schedule and homecooked food. If you compensate or try to eat very strict or skip carbs to compensate because you overate, there is a very high risk that it will just lead to a new binging/Overeating session.

There are always new diets and trend diets popping up… all claiming to be the best and most revolutionary diet of them all. However they don’t work magic and like mentioned above… what most of those trend diets have in common is that you eat less calories than you normally do and then lose weight. As well as cutting out alot of processed food, which can then lead to better balanced blood sugar and lower blood lipids.

Skip the diet and know that there is no miracle diet out there!

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